Romantic relationships are sometimes grand affairs and sometimes quiet one's. No two relationships are the same. And no relationship that lasts is not without it's swings between bliss and anarchy. But romantic pairings beckon to us because we're social creatures and we crave the security and good feelings that a healthy intimate relationship brings us.
We learn to care about someone other than ourselves and we learn to listen to each other, hopefully. It is in moments of intimacy, bliss, shared laughter, anger, pain, and triumph, do we share completely of ourselves with our chosen mates. In order to experience these things with each other there are steps one can take to really connect and bliss out with their loved one.
Enjoy Each Others Company
Spend time together taking part in activities you both enjoy. Whether that's a cooking class, catching a baseball game, traveling, or simply bingeing some streaming video, enjoy this time together. If there are some problems, table them for a bit and simply bask in your partner's presence. Those problems will still be there ready to resolve after some much needed pleasant time with your partner. They may even be easier to resolve once you've gained some positive associations with your partner.
Accept Your Partner
Whether it's smelly feet, their horse sounding laugh, or loving worry; accept your partner as they are. There is always room for improvement and change, but just let them be who they are as brilliant and bold as sunshine. We love our partner for their good qualities, being supportive, responsible, funny, etc. But when we accept them for who they are, the good and the bad, you open yourselves to a whole world of reciprocal security. You each make each other feel safe, cared for, understood, and unconditionally loved. These are gifts you give each other and they're quite valuable, remember that.
Commit to Supporting Their Evolution
We're humans. We're frequently all over the place in terms actions, goals, desires, emotions, and responses to the victories and challenges of our lives. We're going to make mistakes, we're going to make decisions that bring about exceptional results too. We're likely going to change our opinions about dozens if not a hundred or more things in our life time. And when you do this with a partner, they see you. They see you grope for inspiration and direction. They see your winning smile when you've made a break through. But above all they should allow you the space to feel, experience, adapt and respond to life. Let each other have that space to grow, to learn, and to evolve. You might bump into each other as you go about this process, but it's worth it to watch each other soar, knowing you've been supportive all the way.
Taking the time to incorporate these practices into your relationship, will have it blossoming like spring! #intimacy #trust #acceptance #unconditionallove #oneness #relationships
Santee Blakey is a Life Coach and Licensed Massage Therapist at Soul Growth Wellness. When she's not biking, reading, or biking, or reading (she needs new hobbies, suggest her some:-), she'll be writing and enjoying a caramel frappacino in her favorite Starbucks. Follow her on Youtube for her series --> Self Acceptance: What It's Really Like (A Journey).
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