I let my emotions get the better of me, often. This has caused me to make some poor decisions in my life as a result and I'm still recovering from some of those decisions. As I've been learning from various sources, emotional control is a very important part of maturity. And while I've been noted as someone who is wise and insightful, my emotions have always been a trouble spot for me. Especially desperation and agitation. When desperate and intensely agitated, I'm a wreck. I cry, my heart is beating a mile a minute and I even feel light headed. But I've been doing better lately. I've been learning to calm my turbulent waters.
When I took the personality test, I can't say I was surprised. I knew I was an INFP (a sensitive feeling introvert who perceives things rather than always thinking it through). But the turbulent analysis was spot on. I still do frequently feel intense emotion and wondering which way to go in terms of decisions about my life. I make the decisions, mind you. But not without some intense volleying back and forth. Now you might wonder why a coach would admit this. Because we're not perfect. We go through things like our clients. In fact, it's helpful to our clients. We can be more empathetic if we've walked the territory our clients have. We can be of better help and ask the most salient questions for them to grow a deeper awareness and understanding of themselves.
Years ago, my issue revolved around depression and anxiety. I was a wreck then too, but I used the tools of psychology and coaching to make real and vast improvements in my life and how I was relating to it. I looked inward, deeply and methodically, to understand the source of my depression and anxiety. I took the steps necessary to come out of my comfort zone and challenge myself to move past these blocks that were holding me back. And I found happiness, fulfillment, and serenity as a result.
I'm so pleased that I've been this way and have had these experiences because they have allowed me to grow and mature in ways I couldn't have imagined in my early years of adult hood. I've walked the path of despair and I've come out the other side. This makes me uniquely qualified to help others walk their path out of a life that no longer serves them.
And I share this information too, because improvement and the evolution of mind, body, and spirit is an ongoing journey. You don't arrive at perfection, you arrive at acceptance of your strengths and limitations with grace, with an eye to whatever improvements you can make along the way. As a coach I am still evolving and I fully expect as long as I continue to do the work that the turbulent score will get lower and lower as I learn the fine art of managing my emotions. Then having walked this path, I once again have something of value to offer my clients.
Your experience is valuable. Always look to share the lessons you've learned with others. You might save them pain or show them a path where they can process that pain in a healthy and progressive way. #growth #learning #change #knowthyself #emotions
Santee Blakey is a Life Coach and Licensed Massage Therapist at Soul Growth Wellness. When she's not biking, reading, or biking, or reading (she needs new hobbies, suggest her some:-), she'll be writing and enjoying a caramel frappacino in her favorite Starbucks. Follow her on Youtube for her series --> Self Acceptance: What It's Really Like (A Journey).
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